This may come as a surprise to some….or not….but you can live as many lives as you want. Think I’m wrong or not following me? Chances are, you’ve already lived more than one. Did you party in your 20s and then settle down with a spouse and kids in your 30s? Or, have you triedContinue reading “As many lives as you want…”
Category Archives: Loss and Letting Go
Do it anyway…
By listening to our fears, we protect ourselves…sometimes from our worst nightmares. Overcoming fear, as I have learned from a few hugely impactful and distinct experiences in my life over the past 10 years, does not mean a discovery that the fears were irrational, invalid, illegitimate, and unjustified. We don’t conquer fear and that’s it…we’reContinue reading “Do it anyway…”
The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…
As I contemplated divorce more than a decade ago, I encountered a number of fears and uncertainties with the idea ending a 15 year-long marriage. Although I was pretty sure it’s what I wanted, I found that fear hides in the most unexpected places and in abundance. Furthermore, it’s not something one overcomes once, butContinue reading “The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…”
You have to be it to see it…
“So far, I have failed. What a miserable and devastating feeling. The worst.” These were my first words in a journal entry dated March 28, 2018. Perhaps you can relate. Perhaps you, too, have experienced the feeling of complete and utter failure in something you’ve attempted….whether in your life, your career, or your personal relationships. Continue reading “You have to be it to see it…”
Deserving better…
It is often said that children learn by example and, specifically, by what they observe in the actions of their parents. A son who sees his father abuse his mother has a good chance of repeating the behavior with his own spouse. A daughter who watches her mother be abused is at risk of beingContinue reading “Deserving better…”
Just a chance…
We’ve all seen it before. Someone wins big in a state lottery and all of their financial woes are seemingly gone in an instant. If they play their cards right, they should never have to struggle again. And yet, within a period of just a few years, they somehow blow all of their winnings andContinue reading “Just a chance…”
The one who bought my chairs…
On the sometimes rare occasion, one has the ever so fortunate experience of being transformed by another person. Like a comet passing by a dark world on its way somewhere else or perhaps a meteorite penetrating a lone planet’s atmosphere in a fantastic display of streaking light before leaving its permanent and indelible mark onContinue reading “The one who bought my chairs…”
Tales of torture and haunting intangibility…
For a long time, my best friends were dead people. Mysterious and intangible dead people. And while I am unsure of the exact origin, I suspect that my fascination began around the age of four with trips to the local cemetery where my grandmother and I would eat peanut butter sandwiches among the secluded tombs,Continue reading “Tales of torture and haunting intangibility…”
Two weeks in glorious hell and back…
Two weeks ago, I was spending my last days in a cheap smelly Michigan motel room looking forward to the conclusion of one of the most growth-inducing experiences of my life. A little over a week before that, I was sitting alone in the same room wondering what happened. I had left my friends’ houseContinue reading “Two weeks in glorious hell and back…”
A Thanksgiving moment…
It’s the Thanksgiving holiday here in the U.S. and for some people, this has come to signify the beginning of a period in our nation’s history during which the “white man” brought death and turmoil to the land’s native inhabitants. Already this morning, I have seen countless memes pop up all over social media inContinue reading “A Thanksgiving moment…”
An invitation from a friend…
Despite the general message and reason for this blog, let me assure you that I am no expert at letting go. Quite contrarily to that and truth be told, I have spent the majority of my life trying to hold on. But loss does not discriminate. No matter how emphatically we try to hold onContinue reading “An invitation from a friend…”
My own part in things…
It was probably the third or fourth call from him in the past hour. I didn’t even bother to say hello when picking up the phone. In fact, I didn’t say anything. He did. “Miss divorced fat old white female, you brought this one on yourself with your pigheadedness. You asked for everything you’re getting.Continue reading “My own part in things…”
Inside the coronavirus cocoon…
In the course of a few weeks, the world has changed….and I’m realizing more than ever how important it is that we let go, adapt, and innovate. This year has been a challenge for me from the start. Four days into the year, my car window was busted out and about $2400 worth of cameraContinue reading “Inside the coronavirus cocoon…”
Lifting a foot…
My experience was that I had to change something. I had to let go. I had to let go of whatever hopes and dreams to which I was still clinging and create something new. The old hopes and dreams were all dead and I knew it, but I still had been clinging to the ideaContinue reading “Lifting a foot…”
Jeanie Unbottled 