On loan from the universe…

As soon as we separate ourselves from others, others separate themselves from us. This was just one of the thoughts or realizations I had one cold day this past January as I house-sat for a friend in Des Moines, Iowa. I had been watching a few videos on minimalism prior to sitting down to write,Continue reading “On loan from the universe…”

Love, hope, and wrong turns…

The tightrope between hope and despair is one many of us have walked a time or two in the search for love….so I thought a few words on the subject might be due. If you’ve ever hoped for something in love one minute, but found yourself wanting to throw in the towel the next, thenContinue reading “Love, hope, and wrong turns…”

The Unexpected Journey of Bath Towels…

The towels were the first thing I had to let go.  I realize how peculiar this might sound….that out of all of the things one acquires in life—house, cars, furniture, clothing, dishes, tools, home decor, miscellaneous junk—the bathroom towels were the first among all of the other collected items I would give up.   And yet,Continue reading “The Unexpected Journey of Bath Towels…”

The Season for New Life…

This is the season for new life. It does not come about without death, loss, and letting go….and embracing change and what’s to come. The gardener does not fret over last year’s bounty or famine, but sows the seeds for new growth and welcomes each leaf as it unfolds.

Lessons Learned: The 12 Most Significant Growth-Inducing Realizations of my Life (in the last 12 years)…

Like most people, I’ve learned many valuable lessons over the course of my life…..assimilating them into my world view until the memory of when and how I learned them was lost and it seemed there was never a time before when I hadn’t known their truths. But that’s not yet the case with the lessonsContinue reading “Lessons Learned: The 12 Most Significant Growth-Inducing Realizations of my Life (in the last 12 years)…”

Not really your friends…

About a year before we married, my late husband traveled to Japan, where he taught English for about six months. At the time he left, in the spring of 1991, we had been dating for over two years. Sitting across from each other in a booth at a local restaurant the day before his flight,Continue reading “Not really your friends…”

The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…

As I contemplated divorce more than a decade ago, I encountered a number of fears and uncertainties with the idea ending a 15 year-long marriage. Although I was pretty sure it’s what I wanted, I found that fear hides in the most unexpected places and in abundance. Furthermore, it’s not something one overcomes once, butContinue reading “The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…”

Deserving better…

It is often said that children learn by example and, specifically, by what they observe in the actions of their parents.  A son who sees his father abuse his mother has a good chance of repeating the behavior with his own spouse.  A daughter who watches her mother be abused is at risk of beingContinue reading “Deserving better…”

Just a chance…

We’ve all seen it before.  Someone wins big in a state lottery and all of their financial woes are seemingly gone in an instant.  If they play their cards right, they should never have to struggle again.  And yet, within a period of just a few years, they somehow blow all of their winnings andContinue reading “Just a chance…”

Two weeks in glorious hell and back…

Two weeks ago, I was spending my last days in a cheap smelly Michigan motel room looking forward to the conclusion of one of the most growth-inducing experiences of my life. A little over a week before that, I was sitting alone in the same room wondering what happened. I had left my friends’ houseContinue reading “Two weeks in glorious hell and back…”