A whole other world…

When my husband passed away from a self-inflicted gunshot wound in 2010, I was not unfamiliar with loss and grief. Yet, for a period of time after his death, I found myself void of compassion for others experiencing their own loss, grief, and trauma. In fact, it was almost two years before I was ableContinue reading “A whole other world…”

I just got here…

It’s been quiet the past few weeks, observationally speaking. I took a trip to Iowa earlier this month to help friends with their business and expected to be haunted by memories and my closer proximity to the source of many feelings and synchronicities over the past year. I wasn’t. Aside from a turn in DesContinue reading “I just got here…”

Messages from the Universe

Heart broken and needing to shut myself off from the world, I walked around Gray’s Lake in Des Moines just before Labor Day 2021. As I passed baby catamarans docked on the shoreline, a man passed me and smiled. “Your hair is beautiful,” he said as he walked by. How strange, I thought. And yet,Continue reading “Messages from the Universe”

Love, hope, and wrong turns…

The tightrope between hope and despair is one many of us have walked a time or two in the search for love….so I thought a few words on the subject might be due. If you’ve ever hoped for something in love one minute, but found yourself wanting to throw in the towel the next, thenContinue reading “Love, hope, and wrong turns…”

The Unexpected Journey of Bath Towels…

The towels were the first thing I had to let go.  I realize how peculiar this might sound….that out of all of the things one acquires in life—house, cars, furniture, clothing, dishes, tools, home decor, miscellaneous junk—the bathroom towels were the first among all of the other collected items I would give up.   And yet,Continue reading “The Unexpected Journey of Bath Towels…”

Do it anyway…

By listening to our fears, we protect ourselves…sometimes from our worst nightmares. Overcoming fear, as I have learned from a few hugely impactful and distinct experiences in my life over the past 10 years, does not mean a discovery that the fears were irrational, invalid, illegitimate, and unjustified. We don’t conquer fear and that’s it…we’reContinue reading “Do it anyway…”

The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…

As I contemplated divorce more than a decade ago, I encountered a number of fears and uncertainties with the idea ending a 15 year-long marriage. Although I was pretty sure it’s what I wanted, I found that fear hides in the most unexpected places and in abundance. Furthermore, it’s not something one overcomes once, butContinue reading “The 5 Deadly Fears of Loss (and what we gain by letting go)…”

Deserving better…

It is often said that children learn by example and, specifically, by what they observe in the actions of their parents.  A son who sees his father abuse his mother has a good chance of repeating the behavior with his own spouse.  A daughter who watches her mother be abused is at risk of beingContinue reading “Deserving better…”

Just a chance…

We’ve all seen it before.  Someone wins big in a state lottery and all of their financial woes are seemingly gone in an instant.  If they play their cards right, they should never have to struggle again.  And yet, within a period of just a few years, they somehow blow all of their winnings andContinue reading “Just a chance…”

An invitation from a friend…

Despite the general message and reason for this blog, let me assure you that I am no expert at letting go. Quite contrarily to that and truth be told, I have spent the majority of my life trying to hold on. But loss does not discriminate. No matter how emphatically we try to hold onContinue reading “An invitation from a friend…”