I am…you

Imagine for a minute….that my soul is yours and everything I experience is, therefore, your experience. I am, essentially, an extension of you. I am your eyes, ears, nose, mouth, and hands. Every breathe I take is yours and you feel every beat of my heart. What do you wish for me? What do IContinue reading “I am…you”

These are the things…

When it comes to a woman who’s given up almost all material luxuries in her own life, you don’t win her over with a shiny new Land Rover, 48-foot sailboat, flights to exotic locations, jewelry, and the like. You win her over with a photo of a small happy house plant soaking up the sunContinue reading “These are the things…”

Good night, stranger…

Last night as I lay in bed dreaming of you, I ran my own hand over my bare shoulder and down my arm as some sort of telepathic experiment in which I imagined that you could feel me….because you are me. Or maybe, you reside in me…..because you’re always somehow with me….on my travels, duringContinue reading “Good night, stranger…”

Messages from the Universe

Heart broken and needing to shut myself off from the world, I walked around Gray’s Lake in Des Moines just before Labor Day 2021. As I passed baby catamarans docked on the shoreline, a man passed me and smiled. “Your hair is beautiful,” he said as he walked by. How strange, I thought. And yet,Continue reading “Messages from the Universe”

Not a love language…

Anyone familiar with the five love languages of touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service is probably not new to the idea that individuals don’t always interpret love the same way. That is, they show and receive love through actions or behaviors that may differ from others close to them. BecauseContinue reading “Not a love language…”

A new home with you…

You may be but a world away, but you are the keeper and holder of my heart. Perhaps you are unaware, but it’s been in your care for awhile. Like a stowaway….it hitched a ride home with you on a cold night under the stars in another state when I intended to love you onlyContinue reading “A new home with you…”

A twin story…

When I was just three years old, I broke someone’s heart for the first time….and as I revisit the experience, I wonder what it might tell me about myself, relationships in general, and matters of the heart. But first, the story…. Like many children whose parents have depended on two incomes, I attended pre-school forContinue reading “A twin story…”

Love, hope, and wrong turns…

The tightrope between hope and despair is one many of us have walked a time or two in the search for love….so I thought a few words on the subject might be due. If you’ve ever hoped for something in love one minute, but found yourself wanting to throw in the towel the next, thenContinue reading “Love, hope, and wrong turns…”

Lessons Learned: The 12 Most Significant Growth-Inducing Realizations of my Life (in the last 12 years)…

Like most people, I’ve learned many valuable lessons over the course of my life…..assimilating them into my world view until the memory of when and how I learned them was lost and it seemed there was never a time before when I hadn’t known their truths. But that’s not yet the case with the lessonsContinue reading “Lessons Learned: The 12 Most Significant Growth-Inducing Realizations of my Life (in the last 12 years)…”

Not really your friends…

About a year before we married, my late husband traveled to Japan, where he taught English for about six months. At the time he left, in the spring of 1991, we had been dating for over two years. Sitting across from each other in a booth at a local restaurant the day before his flight,Continue reading “Not really your friends…”

Do it anyway…

By listening to our fears, we protect ourselves…sometimes from our worst nightmares. Overcoming fear, as I have learned from a few hugely impactful and distinct experiences in my life over the past 10 years, does not mean a discovery that the fears were irrational, invalid, illegitimate, and unjustified. We don’t conquer fear and that’s it…we’reContinue reading “Do it anyway…”

The one who bought my chairs…

On the sometimes rare occasion, one has the ever so fortunate experience of being transformed by another person. Like a comet passing by a dark world on its way somewhere else or perhaps a meteorite penetrating a lone planet’s atmosphere in a fantastic display of streaking light before leaving its permanent and indelible mark onContinue reading “The one who bought my chairs…”

Tales of torture and haunting intangibility…

For a long time, my best friends were dead people. Mysterious and intangible dead people. And while I am unsure of the exact origin, I suspect that my fascination began around the age of four with trips to the local cemetery where my grandmother and I would eat peanut butter sandwiches among the secluded tombs,Continue reading “Tales of torture and haunting intangibility…”

Two weeks in glorious hell and back…

Two weeks ago, I was spending my last days in a cheap smelly Michigan motel room looking forward to the conclusion of one of the most growth-inducing experiences of my life. A little over a week before that, I was sitting alone in the same room wondering what happened. I had left my friends’ houseContinue reading “Two weeks in glorious hell and back…”

I dreamt of feathers… (a poem)

I dreamt of feathers dark and warm wrapping around my naked form And eyes so sharp they pierced my soul and fed me all I ached to know For in the grasp of claws as strong and unrelenting  as love long gone I knew no struggle no fear nor fight upon the rapture of theContinue reading “I dreamt of feathers… (a poem)”